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Excellent suggestion!

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Thank you, Donna. :) Words matter, yes? So why not in this case, too ... :)

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this is a great way of looking at things

I wanted to start writing poetry but I have no idea where to begin, I’d love to connect with you

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Thanks, Mike. :)

When I first started writing poetry, it was in community online. I invite you to do the same by coming over to The Write to Poetry and using our prompts. Just take the first step, and... you're off!

https://thewritetopoetry.substack.com/

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TS This hit home in soo many ways. Thank you for your grace and compassionate action. A simple word swap, could save Anguish and doubt for the writer being critiqued. Could have caused a negative domino effect. Instead, you've started a ripple of compassionate consideration which I'll carry forthwith! I'm new here but not to writing, (35 years worth) and I'm sitting on a plethora of material that not an eyeball in the universe has seen I haven't published, because, well, fear, and I keep shrinking . I'll get there... I appreciate the struggle

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Thanks for sharing, Melissa. How wonderful that you've been writing for 35 years! :)

Yes, why not swap words? The R word hits a discordant nerve, almost guaranteed to invite a writer to feel bad; the D word, while it still means a "no," can send a writer off exploring.

On top of that, these words even tend to suggest things about the editor who's saying no. It struck me especially hard when getting ready to describe what happened with Jane; I just *knew* that Jane never rejects. She declines. That was the eye-opening moment for me, causing me to reflect more widely on the whole issue of editorial semantics. :)

Re: your unpublished material: if you can share your work with some close friends or a small, supportive and insightful writing group, that's always a beginning. I hope you do. :)

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